Thursday, May 19, 2022

How to Stay Motivated During Hard Times

Use these simple, actionable strategies to keep moving forward

by Christopher Ruvo

The coronavirus pandemic has ignited a public health crisis not seen in the United States in more than 100 years and triggered an economic freefall that has the country set for recession or worse. All that has made daily life exceedingly more difficult, including for professionals in the promotional products industry, which has been devastated by lost business, layoffs and temporary closures amid the COVID-19 fallout.

At such a time, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and beaten. Still, now more than ever is a time to stir up resolve and dig into improving matters to the best of your ability. To do that, you need to stay motivated. Here are a few ideas how:

*Remind yourself that you’ve overcome troubles before: You’ve faced life’s storms. But if you’re reading this, you made it through them. Remind yourself of that. You’re tougher than you think. Your skin is thicker than you give yourself credit for. The simple fact of your continued existence in an increasingly complex and difficult-to-navigate world is proof of that. So, remember the rocky terrains – and how you succeeded in crossing them. Firm yourself in the belief that you can and will do it again. 

*Call to mind past victories: Similarly, think of the times you set your mind to accomplish something and then achieved the goal. Recalling the successes, reliving their emotions even, can prove catalyzing, inspiring you to work hard toward your new objectives and solidifying a resolve that you can attain the goals you set.

*Count your blessings: Fear, anxiety and anger can’t exist at the same time that you’re feeling gratitude. So, when the world overwhelms and those feelings of breathlessness and worry storm in, counteract them by diverting your thoughts to things for which you are thankful. Make a mental account of such things, taking time to contemplate as many as needed until you calm down. It may help to write a list. As Counselor shared recently, practicing gratitude makes you feel better. When you feel better, you’re stronger and able to think clearer. That best prepares you to not just weather the adversity of your particular situation, but to develop smart strategies to actively navigate it.

*Affirm that something good will happen: As troubles mount, you can fall into the mindset that nothing good happens – or ever will happen. Aim to avoid that trap with positive mental framing. As you get going in the morning, repeatedly tell yourself that something good is going to happen for you that day until you truly internalize the sentiment. This creates a sense of expectation and even excitement that can help fuel you through the harder moments in the hours ahead. And, some would argue, the belief in something good occurring has the power to manifest it happening.

*Speak positively: This applies to internal dialogs with yourself, as well as conversations, email interactions, social media exchanges and the like you have with others. Speaking gloom and doom generates a cloud of negativity around you; that brings you and others down – saps energy. However, speaking positively over and again can help brighten the dark times. It lifts spirits. That better readies you to make what improvements you can to improve your situation.

*Let go: There are some things that are beyond your control. Tell them goodbye and move past them. When you do this, a weight lifts. When you feel less burdened, you’re more capable of doing what you should be doing, which is taking steps to control the things you can in pursuit of desirable outcomes.

*Fill your mind with uplifting content: Given the rapidly changing health and business complications tied to the coronavirus, it’s not possible – or responsible – to entirely tune out the world. Still, constantly pouring downbeat reports into your head isn’t wise, either. Get the crucial information you need to be an informed, responsible citizen and to help make smart business decisions. Then, bolster your perspective with uplifting messages. Maybe that involves reading a motivational or religious/spiritual book, or listening to an inspirational podcast. Perhaps it entails enjoying music, movies or visual art that pick you up. It could even be YouTubing highlights of those times your teams won championships. Whatever the good stuff is, populate your mind with it.

*Exercise: You don’t have to go at it like you’re training for an ultramarathon, but engaging in physical activity every day will get the endorphins firing, energize you and help evaporate the fog from your perspective.

*Celebrate accomplishments: No success is too small to celebrate. During bleak periods, it’s especially important to acknowledge and feel good about every win. Doing so is strengthening and motivating.

*Have an action plan: Amid uncertainty, a plan provides structure – a foundation from which you can build. That can prove reassuring. Plus, having a plan is inherently motivating – its existence compels you to put it into action. By plotting out a plan, you’ll also be forced to think things through, which can lead to unexpected revelations for potential solutions to current dilemmas. That can fire you up.

Thursday, July 11, 2019

Living the Legacy You Hope to Leave Behind

By Randi G. Fine

Have you ever asked yourself what your ultimate purpose is; what you are supposed to add to this world and what imprint you will leave on it? Are you living the legacy you hope to leave behind?

Author Ray Bradbury wrote in his book Fahrenheit 451, "Everyone must leave something behind when he dies. Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die. It doesn't matter what you do, so long as you change something from the way it was before you touched it into something that's like you after you take your hands away." 

Each of us will leave a legacy behind after we pass on; that is a given. It doesn't matter how young or old we are; we never know when our days are up. Would you be proud of the legacy you left behind if your life ended today? We should each aspire to live our lives every day in ways that cast a positive light on us. Furthermore our lives should set an example that others who follow after us will benefit from. 

In essence, living a legacy requires consideration for tomorrow. That does not mean living for the future. To focus on our legacies we must certainly consider future outcomes. But living our legacies means making each moment count, living each moment with intention. 

An intention is a course of action, physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, that one intends to follow. It is an objective or vision that guides our thoughts, attitudes, and choices. We send our intentions out in the form of a thought but we must fulfill their destination with our deliberate actions. This is important because you are building your legacy every day, whether by intention or not.

A life that just happens does not inspire anyone. No one will remember it. So the most important question to ask ourselves when planning our legacy is, "In what light do I want to be remembered. Will others see my life as having been lived to the fullest, or will they see it as a life of someone who just got by?"

Ultimately we have no control over how others will remember us, but we certainly can influence it. To do that we must have a direction-we must identify what we want to contribute and achieve while we are here. 

Whatever we achieve in life, the knowledge we acquire, and the challenges we rise above, gets passed down through the generations that follow after us. Our words and actions become ripples in the sea of time. They will impact the lives of our family, friends, and community, and continue to carry on long after we are gone. 

The legacy of our lives will impact the lives of those we hold dearest-our children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and future generations. Our words and actions of today influence the way we will be remembered tomorrow. What stories and memories will you leave behind?

Everyone will be remembered for something. We all hope to be remembered in a positive light. That memory is influenced by the way we live our day-to-day life, by our attitudes, outlooks, values, and convictions. It is better to be remembered as an optimistic person than a pessimistic person.

It is better to be remembered for our inner strength than for our weakness. It is better to be remembered as a faithful person than one who is faithless. And it is better to be remembered as one who is kind than one who is hostile.

Are you living a life of intention or do you merely exist? Are you living the life that is best suited for you and your uniqueness or are you living the life that others want you to live? Are you following your heart or following the crowd?

What kind of legacy do you envision for yourself? Do you hope to leave a legacy of love?

If so there are many ways for you to do that. You can be a loyal, true person who supports and celebrates the successes of others. You can treat others with compassion, and kindness. You can love deeply and unconditionally. You can teach others to fight for what they believe in.

You can advocate for those who cannot advocate for themselves. You can be charitable. You can be accepting and forgiving. You can nurture and respect all creation; the Earth, animals, and the family of mankind. You can love life. You can spread light. You can love yourself. And you can allow others to love you.

Perhaps the legacy you want to leave is one of purpose.

Leaving a legacy of purpose requires living for purposes greater than our selves. To live for purpose we must positively impact the world while we are here as well as long after we are gone. We can do that through the generosity of our time and service or through financial endowments.

Some people donate money while they are alive. Some bequest their estates to charities, religious institutions, or scholarship funds after they pass on. But one does not have to have money to leave a legacy of purpose. For most people it is the work they do in life that leaves a legacy of purpose, whether for individuals, a business, a foundation, a non-profit organization, school, or religious institutions.

You may hope to leave a legacy of excellence or inspiration

You can accomplish this by pursuing excellence in something or everything to inspire excellence in those around you. You can encourage others to raise the bar on their own standards. Strive to make a difference in whatever situation you are committed to whether through outstanding teaching, school, charitable work, parenting, the arts, or the business world.

Inspire and teach others to have hope, whether through your words or messages, or by quiet example. Call on the adversity you have risen above or the difficult feats you have bravely achieved to accomplish wonderful things with your life. Your diligence and optimistic outlook is what helped you reach and exceed your goals. Others are empowered by your exemplary life, and the legacy continues.

You can also leave a legacy of encouragement

Be someone who encourages and stands behind others cheering them on. Know how to treat people with respect. Make others feel special. Be generous with praise and gentle with criticism. 

Lend a helpful hand to those who are giving their best effort but may still be struggling. Be considerate of the well-being of others. Offer help to those who are striving to reach their goals. Parents, spouses, friends, teachers, and coworkers have the greatest opportunities to leave legacies of encouragement.

Leaving a legacy does not require financial wealth or notoriety. There are many unsung heroes walking or who have walked this Earth. Each of us plays an essential part in the overall puzzle of life. All our lives have meaning, influence, and purpose. Each of us has something remarkable to pass on to our descendants and to the world.

Living your life with a positive attitude, hopeful outlook, honorable value system, and clear conviction will create a legacy that others will remember long after you are gone.

Friday, December 7, 2018

Getting in Touch With Your Authentic Self

by Joseph Wilner

Early in life there was a time when you exposed your authentic self and were scolded, berated, and belittled for any number of reasons. You were told “don’t do that” and “you’re bad,” all for being who we really are; a person expressing your feelings, emotions, and desires. 
This reprimanding leads us to respond with shame and guilt about who we are as a person. We blame ourselves for others emotional distress, and we lose touch with our true self. We become unable to express ourselves and experience emotions because we learned to believe it was wrong. 
We now only feel comfortable projecting a false imagine that we hope will be accepted and respected by others. I have been really focused on enhancing positive emotions in my own and other peoples’ lives, assuming this would be the remedy to help people find greater life-satisfaction. 
I do feel this is immensely important and having more positive emotions is an empirically proven route to greater well-being and life-satisfaction, though at the same time we must also deal with core issues of our self-identity if we are ever to feel heartfelt positivity. 
If you feel out of touch with the person you are meant to be, and don’t believe you’re following the right path, this post is for you. Here is how the process unfolds to connect with your authentic self.

If you’re out of touch with your authentic self, realizing this incongruence is the first step. The false self is who we project to the world in an attempt to protect us from any sort of emotional pain. 

If you notice that you shut down from fear of rejection and failure there is healing that needs to take place. In this stage we view ourselves as flawed and defective because we aren’t perfect. Learning to accept our imperfections and knowing we can’t please everyone is a major part of coming to grips with this incongruence. 
Be aware of your behavior in this stage, when the self is divided addictions and compulsive behavior will be prominent. We will do anything to remove the pain of not being good enough, and attempt to fill this void with work, alcohol, sex, and other drugs. Of course, these only exacerbate the problem and lead to more guilt and shame. We need to look inside ourselves for the answer.
Eventually we must face our demons and confront our limitations in order to get in touch with our authentic self. We need to gain awareness into the source of our split identity and come to grips with how this impacts our behavior and beliefs. Getting in touch with our “shadow” and uncovering the external idealizations we connect with is essential to ever be truly whole. 
The roles and responsibilities we hold in life are not our true being, particularly if you have no intrinsic motivation and personal connection to what you do for a living. This is just a role that was followed in order to mask pain and feel better about shame and guilt from the past. 
We may say to ourselves, “If I become a doctor or lawyer or (insert any profession), I will be worthy.” “If I have money I will be okay.” “As long as I have this relationship things will be fine.” 
Coming to grips with this does not mean we have chosen the wrong path and must change course, but it offers an opportunity to explore what we assume will make us whole and happy. If your soul is damaged, external success and relationships will not heal this wound. It must come from within.
This can be very difficult for many people. On the surface they smile and tell themselves everything’s okay, but underneath they are teeming with past regrets and unresolved anger and shame. 
We must learn to deal with these troubling sources while we continue to reorganize our life for greater fulfillment and happiness. 
I am a major proponent of having more positive emotions in life, though learning to get in touch with our authentic self requires that we experience and accept a full range of emotions, including anger, fear, and sadness. 
I have spent a great deal of time trying to neutralize these emotions only to feel more agitation and frustration from their inevitable return. They are natural and we must learn to accept them. This is the same for our limitations and weaknesses. 
We are not fully human without these feelings and imperfections, and until we accept our human nature healing is only superficial. No one is perfect, and being able to embrace our imperfections means:
*Not having to always please others

*Be willing to make mistakes and take responsibility

*Accepting those things that weren’t our fault

*Knowing we are not responsible for how others feel

*Being able to say “no” and be assertive
We can love ourselves unconditionally by realizing that despite our behavior which is not going to be perfect, we are still worthy of love and respect. Once we connect with this source of love our behavior often changes and healing can take place more naturally.
Self-Worth and Self-Trust
From self-acceptance comes self-esteem and self-confidence. We can begin to believe that we are worthy of good things and that we are capable of getting what we desire in life. This is about coming to the realization that we are a “10” underneath our layers of addiction, anger, and isolation. 
We have to get in touch with this authentic self, the one who is okay with feeling all range of emotions and who can choose to respond to these emotions in a healthy way. 
Who is willing to try and fail, and risk being vulnerable in order to love. Having self-worth and self-trust will lead us to stretch ourselves to do more and try more and start to believe in the vast potential we hold. We will no longer simply live life to avoid shame and guilt, but will live life from courage, spirituality, and love. 
Use the pain you have experienced in life as a way of gaining self-understanding and transcending closer to your spiritual nature. We are not our life roles or profession, nor are we what others tell us we are. We are plain and simple one with the source of life.

Monday, September 17, 2018

Bringing Clarity About the Unrealistic Perfect Mate Notion

"No other person on this planet was made for you.

They were made for themselves.

Love is all about choices.

No one is going to be perfect for you

and I think,

we need to stop raising everyone on the belief,

that someone out there,

just one other person in the whole world,

was 'made for you.

Because it isn’t true.

No one is made for you,

besides YOU.

Other people belong to themselves.

If you want to make it work with someone,

it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion,

communication, and choice."

- Anon.

Monday, August 27, 2018

Stop Drowning in Stress and Anxiety

by Jennifer Heflin

I heaved my chest in exhaustion - I am so stressed and everyone is driving me insane! There is only one me and with three children, a husband, a myriad of animal companions, cleaning, laundry, carpooling, building a business…blah, blah, blah…I could go on and on but you get it.
Everyone has their own story. And let’s be honest. The stress factors above are the easy part of the game. These are the aspects of life in which you’re coasting compared to the underlying anxiety we feel about the not-mentioned-in-polite-conversation issues, which are truly the bane of our existence. 
I’m referring to the deep resentment, fear, and confusion felt as a result of hardship involving finances, illness, relationships, parenting and so on. And this pressure and worry can easily become a default state of being. We’ve become so used to it that we don’t even know we are weighed down by deadlines, expectations, fear and worry which slowly erode our body, mind, and spirit.
We believe that someone or something outside of ourselves holds the key to our peace of mind. You see, there is a generally accepted belief that our stress occurs because of other people and circumstances. 
Meaning, most of us think that our emotional state is controlled by something outside of ourselves usually other people’s behavior and circumstances:
*If he would change his behavior, I would feel better.
*If they would react differently, I would be happy.
*If I had more fill-in-the-blank, I would finally find peace.
*If I had less fill-in-the-blank, I wouldn’t be so anxious.
And that is the essence of the stress feedback loop which holds us prisoner in an anxiety-riddled state of being. So, let me pull back the curtain on that ferris wheel of misery and I say this from my own personal experience with it unless you choose a different perspective you are not getting off!
What I’ve discovered is that stress is a result of us not living with a greater purpose; not being aligned with the innate intelligence or internal compass which will always guide us in the best and highest direction if we would only allow it.
To really understand this concept, it’s important to know that there is more than one aspect of self. For simplification purposes, there is:
*Innate intelligence - Aspect of self which is eternal and all-knowing.
*Ego - Aspect of self which keeps us focused in physical reality.
The fly in the ointment comes in when the ego takes on more than it was meant to handle. When the ego is overworking itself trying to figure everything out, control, manipulate, and coerce, it becomes the dreaded 'Negative Ego'.

You can think of the negative ego as the monkey mind or the heckler in your head, constantly harassing you with all that is wrong. When that is the predominant voice speaking to you, you have fallen out of alignment with your innate intelligence and are usually knee-deep in stress.
What are the qualities of being aligned with the negative ego?
*You feel dissatisfied, disinterested and without passion.
*You hold onto grudges convinced you are a victim of other people’s behavior and/or circumstance.
*You take life personally as if everyone is out to get you.
*Life feels chaotic and painful.
*No matter how hard you work or what you do, you cannot find a way to feel the way you want to feel.
The exit ramp for the negative feedback loop of disempowerment is to practice quieting the negative ego by focusing on your purpose and realigning with the innate intelligence within.
What are the qualities of being aligned with the divine intelligence within?
*You are at peace regardless of outer circumstances.
*You are fully trusting the flow of life.
*Open to what is coming your way.
*You can participate in life without needing to control it.
*You are fulfilled by less and not desperately craving more.
When you begin to practice this on a regular basis that is, find yourself in the negative feedback loop, pivot to align with your innate intelligence, and observe as your experience morphs into peace and ease you will see what I mean.
You begin to surf the waves of life more effortlessly, rather than becoming trapped in the break and thrown around by the chaos and confusion.
You will quickly become the master which we are all designed to be. This is our destiny. No one is exempt from this divine right of peace and joy. Just choose it.

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Spiritual Intelligence: Living As Your Higher Self

by Cindy Wigglesworth

Who are your spiritual heroes those people you would think of as exemplary human beings? And what characteristics do you admire in them? When I ask people these questions, they cite similar characteristics time and again. We tend to admire people who have high integrity and are courageous, loving, calm, visionary, selfless, inspiring, and making a difference. 

Think about this for yourself. Make your own list of those you consider to be especially noble, and why. This is a great starting point for becoming an exemplar yourself. I have found that the great majority of people want to live as their noblest self. And achieving this requires understanding and developing multiple “intelligences,” including spiritual intelligence.

Spiritual intelligence is an essential component of both personal and professional development. With SQ we access the voice of our noblest self our higher self and let it drive our lives.

Personal and spiritual growth can no longer be viewed as a private journey we undertake in a different sphere of life than our professional endeavors. There is, in my experience, an undeniable connection between the personal and the professional, between the inner life of the self and the outer world of effectiveness and impact. In other words, your personal development changes you. And who you are ultimately determines how you lead.

We are all leaders and role models regardless of our jobs. We are leaders to our children, to our coworkers, and to everyone we interact with. Deep, authentic leadership requires that we lead ourselves first. We do the spiritual weightlifting to develop a deep inner self-awareness and compassion for the world around us. And we put in the effort required to make a difference in the world. We build the multiple intelligences we need: cognitive or mental intelligence (IQ) and the related technical skills of our craft; emotional intelligence (EQ), or good interpersonal skills; physical intelligence (PQ), or good body management; and spiritual intelligence (SQ).

Most people are familiar with the term IQ, which is our classical mental intelligence (mathematical and verbal). And more and more have heard of EQ or emotional intelligence, thanks to the pioneering work of Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis. PQ may not be a familiar term, but it is a foundational skill we all practice every day. Put very simply, when we don’t take care of our bodies, everything else suffers. I define PQ as “body awareness and skillful use.” A simple example of poor PQ is allowing yourself to be continually sleep-deprived. Mental, emotional, and spiritual functioning diminishes along with stamina and health.

The least familiar of these four intelligences is SQ, but I believe we may come to find that it is the most critical as we navigate the choppy waters of our current times. It builds on EQ and takes us to the next level.

I define spiritual intelligence (SQ) as: The ability to behave with wisdom and compassion, while maintaining inner and outer peace, regardless of the situation. I have researched 21 measurable “skills” or “competencies” that are components of this ability. These include things like “awareness of one’s own worldview,” “complexity of inner thought,” “awareness of interconnectedness of life,” “keeping your Higher Self in charge,” and “being a wise and effective change agent.” Unlike many spiritual teachings, which can tend to seem vague or mysterious, these tangible skills can be learned through practice and developed through clearly-defined levels.

Some people argue that spirituality is innate to each one of us something we already are, not something we develop. And I agree. We are all born as spiritual beings. But just as a child with musical ability will never be highly “musically intelligent” if she does not learn music theory and practice playing an instrument, so it is with spiritual intelligence. We must understand the basics of “spiritual theory” and practice the skills to become spiritually intelligent.

The 21 skills of SQ are not new. In fact, they are as old as the spiritual impulse in human consciousness. I arrived at this skills-based model by stepping back from the particular religious or philosophical belief systems and considering the traits that are common to spiritual exemplars yet “a step beyond” EQ or IQ.

I feel that many of us, especially leaders in organizations, have been held back by the lack of a safe, diversity-friendly way to address the skills we need to develop. We need a skills-based language to help us tap the innate drive to nobility in ourselves and then share the benefits of this growth in our workplaces and in society.

SQ development boils down to this: We move from immature ego-driven behaviors to more mature higher self-driven behaviors. How do we do that? We develop the ability to hear the voice of our higher self, to understand and transcend the voice of our ego, and to be guided by deep wisdom and compassion. IQ and EQ support us as we develop the skillful means to deploy our noblest intention. The ego matures and nuanced forms of more effective leadership develop. With more SQ comes less drama and more impact.

Here’s one quick tip you can practice right away: Learn to be quiet. In the stillness you can observe deeply. Notice when your body and mind are agitated. Hear the voice of your ego and its fears. Love your ego it is valuable. But know that it is also a drama queen. It needs guidance and balance. Hold your noble heroes in mind and ask your higher self for guidance. What is the wise and compassionate action to take today in this situation? What is in the highest and best interest of all players including me, my co-workers, friends, family, company, society, and the planet? From this quiet place, you can act with SQ.

Spiritual intelligence is critical for personal growth and authentic leadership. The community, family, global and business leaders of the future will be those who are quickest to recognize this fact and begin to measure and cultivate the skills of spiritual intelligence in themselves and their organizations.

Monday, October 9, 2017

7 Paths of Involution

by Alethia Luna

Involution is just one facet of soulwork, like many things in life, Involution, the Evolution of the heart, mind and soul, exists as a variety of distinct, yet interconnected paths. Involution is an inner process we intentionally choose to go through to live intelligent, authentic, and whole lives. This process consists of 7 different elements:

1. Self-awareness
2. Self-exploration
3. Self-discovery
4. Self-understanding
5. Self-love
6. Self-transformation
7. Self-mastery

All of us exist in each of these 7 elements in differing degrees; the key is to discover which elements you exist in the most, and which elements you exist in the least. Discovering this will help you see what you need to work on the most. Here, we will explore each path of the Involutionary process in a bit of detail.


Also called Self-Consciousness, Self-Awareness is the ability to observe the variety of thoughts, feelings and actions you carry out every day. 

A Self-Aware person is able to identify what they are feeling, but not necessarily why they are feeling that way. A lack of Self-Awareness is defined by animal-like behavior, or behaving without thinking - usually called reacting. If you are a Self-Aware person, you have:

*The ability to introspect.

*The ability to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, personality and behavior.


Self-exploration or the study of oneself, is the process of investigating and analyzing our inner thoughts, emotions, beliefs and ideals. Once we become aware of our internal processes (thinking, feeling, reacting and decision making), it is then beneficial to ask why we function the way we do. 

Self-exploration is often a complex process that involves a lot of introspection, observation, patient consideration and research. It is important to realize that in order to discover who we are, we first need to study who we are. If you are a Self-Exploring person, you:

*Explore how you feel, think and behave.

*Gain knowledge and understanding of yourself through a variety of means (books, workshops, films, tests, meditation etc.).


This can be understood as the act or process of gaining knowledge or understanding of yourself. Self-Discovery is closely linked with Self-Exploration because without studying oneself, attaining a degree of Self-Discovery is impossible. 

People who live in this level tend to discover the underlying mechanisms and truths upholding many of their beliefs, attitudes and behaviors towards themselves and the people around them. If you are a Self-Discovering person, you have:

*Attained insight into what, how and why you feel, think and behave the way you do.


Also called Self-Knowledge, Self-Understanding is the ability to know what, how, and why you do what you do. For this reason, Self-Understanding is closely linked to, and often overlaps with, Self-Discovery. 

People who live in this level tend to have a well-rounded understanding of the origins and reasons behind many of their feelings, thoughts and behaviors. If you are a Self-Understanding person, you have:

*A thorough understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, attitudes, beliefs, motives, defenses and reactions.


Self-Love comes as a result of achieving Self-Understanding, and is defined by a complete acceptance of your strengths and weaknesses.

Individuals who practice Self-Love realize that they are imperfect in different ways, but cease to criticize and punish themselves for these imperfections. If you are a Self-Loving person, you:

*Accept yourself fully

*Stop punishing yourself for your imperfections.

*Develop self-esteem and self-forgiveness.

*Show self-nurturing behaviors, and respect your needs and desires.


When we become Self-Aware, undertake Self-Exploration, obtain Self-Discovery, Understanding and Love, it is then that we come to experience true inner transformation. Self-Transformation can be understood as the transcendence of our previous limiting and destructive identities, or ego selves; the Self-Transforming person:

*Changes in the way they live life, as well as perceive themselves and other people.

*Experiences increased harmony with the world, other people and themselves.


The final goal of the Involutionary process is to attain Self-Mastery. In essence, the Self-Master is an observer of his or her thoughts and feelings, letting them come and go without identifying with or reacting to them. After all, the Self-Master realizes that he is not his momentary thoughts or feelings. In this way, the Self-Master transcends himself, living his life with peace, wisdom and spiritual wholeness.

Self-Mastery however, is not to be confused with austerity or “being in control”, as these imply reaction to thoughts and feelings by avoidance or repression. The Self-Master is not affected by anything and doesn’t feel the need to control, repress or restrain. Self-Mastery is rare, and includes:

*The ability to simply observe feelings and emotions without identifying with them.

*The ability to realize that we are not our thoughts and emotions.

*The ability to stop reacting out of hatred, anger, embarrassment, jealousy and other harmful emotions.

*The ability to live life with peace and wisdom.